Friday, July 24, 2009

Restoring the Balance in an Unequal Relationship


Greetings, thank you for stopping by!
In order for a relationship to have symmetry, it needs to be a reciprocal experience. No one person should dominated in receiving. Moreover, what good can ever come from such imbalance? We spoil people into the "habit of taking" with the hope that they will reciprocate, all we have to do is keep giving and when they don't, who is really surprised? Certainly, not the giver; for the process of inequality was established when you factored your needs out of the equation; “just let me love them a little longer and they will see”. If love was as simple as that, why do so many people crave love’s sincerity? If you don’t value yourself enough to know that you have a right to your own fulfillment, you will never achieve it waiting on the person, whom you have trained to overlook you, to take noticed.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be considered, but wanting to be considered first all the time, is nothing but selfishness. How can love obtain its true measure in an environment where selfishness is “king or queen”. The true of the matter is learned behavior can be rectified. It can be changed, but you will need to know that an imbalance relationship offers no real satisfaction. If we crave equality, when we crave equality, it is for the same attention we so freely give. Change starts with the ability to recognize your own needs and your right to secure fulfillment;
and terminating the one sided practice of loving people who fail to love and respect your needs
in return!

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