Is any one really listening

Greeting, so glad you stopped by!
When you are trying to communicate your needs, is any one listening or have the attempts to communicate your concerns fell on deaf ears? When the relationship becomes dysfunctional, so too does the communication. Often, the inability to listen is an attempt to avoid the obvious. If you ignore the opportunity to listen or to be informed, you ignore the reality of the concern and the person expressing it. It's selective behavior. Addressing only the things that concern selfishness, rather than compromise. When a person is use to having an unfair advantage, rarely do they want to change the odds. They block any attempts at resolution, because change means awareness and awareness means responsibility. Thus accepting responsibility for change is a personal choice. If they are refusing to listen, they do so because they choose to. So the question isn't whether they are listening, but how long do we give them the power over what we require.

If you know you are being unfairly treated, its up to you to change the balance. A healthy relationship is where every one's need are being met. An unhealthy relationship is one where one person's needs dominate the relationship. If they are not willing to respect your right to be heard, stop addressing their needs and observe how quickly you get their attention. We have to be willing to take a stand for our own sense of importance. People who ignore your needs, don't respect you and you must respect yourself enough to make the message clear! Often this one-side infantile behavior is a result of giving too much and accepting too little. If you want to be heard, never train anyone to devalue you, by devaluing yourself. Stop feeding the sickness that offers no real satisfaction! It is easier to change the partner, rather than constantly speaking to the wall that doesn't speak to you anyway!