a slave to one's own mentality

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How does one lose sight of the design for their relationship? When we are in a relationship involving only ourselves, there is no one else responsible for any effort or outcome. Once we make the decision to be in a relationship with another person, the dynamics of responsibility and focus shift. Now, we have two people making decisions, attempting to achieve a similar goal and everything seems fine, until someone decides that selfishness is more important than, respect or love. Once the relationship consisted of sincere intent, now manipulation is playing tricks with a willing heart and mind. I love you, but I need an advantage, more, is the underlying philosophy.

Yet, how does one damage the other, without damaging oneself. It’s easy, when you are trying to do what is right and the other person simply, wants to win. When did love become a competition? I thought was suppose to be sincere effort and compromise. Love has been sacrificed for self-interest, thus the games begin’ trying desperately to fool the other into thinking that they’re still committed. Trying to hitch a free ride on the “blind horse”, you think you created, while becoming the backup transport with all the doors lock. They have simply become a saboteur in their own life, focused on destruction, and slaves to their own mentality, because nothing is more important than the choice that fails to cultivate sincerity and the need to satisfy their own greed!