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Today after being inspired by a personal story, I think it’s important to clarify a misguided philosophy governing many relationships: Is love alone, enough? In my estimation, love is not enough. People seeking to build solid relationships on love alone, are headed for disappointment. Love is an awesome emotion, but love alone does not maintain intimacy or longevity. The honeymoon phase cultivates emotional excitement, but once its over, we experience a let down from the rude awakening that love is work; it is more than sweet ideas built on euphoria, its commitment; not just for a moment, but for a lifetime. Many relationships experience conflicts when their interactions are absent of sincere compromise; when the bills have to be paid, when there is no food in the fridge, such realities can and do alter how we see one another, affecting the dynamics of interaction. If a relationship endures, it isn't due to raw emotions, it is attributed to having a solid foundation of honest effort or a plan for sustaining love.
When relationships fail, they fail because we seek to pass off the responsibility for its survival. Having no problem with imbalance and disrespect, as long as someone else shoulders the responsibility. Too often are couples trying to be a perfect picture on the outside, while dying on the inside, trying to maintain a lie. If we give our relationships the same priority and effort we give to cleaning our homes or our cars, think of the rewards from the honest commitment. Too many people are being damaged from this honeymoon approach to love. If its contentment you seek, develop a plan for survival, not just for love, but for the moments when love will surely not be enough!
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